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align=center style='text-align:center'><b style='mso-bidi-font-weight: normal'><span style='font-size:16.0pt;color:black'>No Dream is Too Small<o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center'><span style='font-size:10.0pt;color:black'>Nancy Hill, LCSW</span><span style='font-size:16.0pt;color:black'><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></p> <p class=MsoNormal><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center'><span style='font-size:16.0pt'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center'> Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? <o:p></o:p></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=right style='text-align:right'>Mary Oliver, poet<o:p></o:p></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center'><span style='font-size:16.0pt;color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal align=center style='text-align:center'><span style='font-size:16.0pt;color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>No dream is too small!<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>What is the smallest dream that you could bring about?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>A tiny dream can offer deep satisfaction, be enlivening, and rest your racing mind. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>There is something waiting right at the edge of our awareness.&nbsp; But we are looking for OUR LIFE'S PURPOSE!&nbsp; We are looking for that BIG and MEANINGFUL dream that will fulfill our DESTINY.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Our dreams don t stand a chance in that environment.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Dreams that get us moving come from our hearts.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>Hearts whisper.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>Egos scream.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>When we look for small treasures, we enter our hearts.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>We tap into our vitality and essential selves.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>We drop away from the big impressive dreams of the ego.&nbsp;&nbsp;Dreaming small doesn t trivialize aspirations, it creates space by releasing the air created by pumped up plans.&nbsp;&nbsp;We relax.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>True satisfaction comes into view.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>There is a huge difference between playing small, not engaging or acting with our full potential, and keeping our expectations in line with what really matters.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Dreaming small means putting a mark on the canvas and trusting more will follow.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>It is typing the first word, paragraph, or page without expecting to write a breakaway bestseller.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Dreaming small is making the first phone call about renting that office down the block without jumping into a lease. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It is realizing you don t have to wow yourself, impress others, or get a standing ovation.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>Keeping our expectation low allows us to surprise ourselves.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Overblown perspectives with high demands for performance often leave us feeling scared and unable to act.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Fear of failing is the number one barrier to taking action. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It gets in the way of discovering our dreams.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Anxiety sets off a biological response that shuts down creativity and intuition.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>It places us in a survival mode, leaving us scanning the horizon for potential pitfalls. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>It keeps us from exploring questions like& What would&nbsp;I pursue if there were nothing to lose?<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><b style='mso-bidi-font-weight:normal'><span style='color:black'>What is the smallest step you could take towards discovering your dream?<o:p></o:p></span></b></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:list .5in'>Create an idea notebook, clippings from magazines, quotes, job listings, classes offered...<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal style='text-indent:3.0pt'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='text-indent:3.0pt'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:list .5in'>Make a Dream Board, pictures of people doing things that look good don t try to make sense of it.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Let it unfold.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>You can find a theme later.<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal style='text-indent:3.0pt'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:list .5in'>Journal 5-10 minutes each day about what you liked.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Some days this will be hard, but it will get easier. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>The more aware you are of what you liked the more you ll notice it.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Take time to observe what you enjoy.<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'>&nbsp;<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'>&nbsp;<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>It may sound strange but we don t listen to ourselves.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Listening increases self-awareness. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Self-awareness is what brings clarity to our dreams and direction.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Get the focus on you.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>I know this makes many of us uncomfortable.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>But self-care is not self-ish.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Thinking about what you want has emotional and physical benefits.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>You are looking for what enlivens you!<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Isn t that what we all want?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>What would you do if you only considered yourself?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Most women work from the other direction.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>First, they look at how it would affect others.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>That focus is why&nbsp;we get stuck.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>After you clarify your dream, you can respond to your current situation. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Start from what you want.&nbsp; Later you can&nbsp;determine the alteration you need to make.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>If you start with a compromise, the energy to propel your actions diminishes.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'>&nbsp;<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>Sometimes open-ended questions can release fear s icy fingers from your heart.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>You can t answer open-ended questions with  Yes or  No responses.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>They free up creativity and let us consider things that hadn t occurred to us.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What would you begin if your life didn t depend on it?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What might you choose if you didn t worry about being foolish or inappropriate?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What dream would you select if success were certain?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What would you pursue if it weren t too risky?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What would you do if you didn t have to worry about money?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What might you pursue if you could go in a completely new direction?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ul style='margin-top:0in' type=disc> <li class=MsoNormal style='color:black;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2;tab-stops:list .5in'>What might you&nbsp;try if&nbsp;you couldn t make a mistake?<o:p></o:p></li> </ul> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>Maybe because I am an extravert; I naturally think of group support as essential.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>But, research bears this out; the support of a group can make the difference between achieving success and failing.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Weight loss, addictions, investment clubs, and meditation groups are examples of how this can help.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>They keep us on track and increase the likelihood we ll stay motivated.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>You don t need to meet face to face but I think that works best.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>And it doesn t have to be every week.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>I ve found once a month in today s busy world is the right timing.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'>It takes a special group to keep from falling into the rut  of this isn t going to work. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Your first gathering needs to spell out guidelines. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Feedback should be encouraging and solution oriented.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Participants need to ask for the support they need and want. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Decide how long you ll meet, how large will the group be.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Again, I think smaller is better.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Six to eight participants is a manageable size for a two-hour meeting. Is whining all right?<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>We all need a &quot;poor baby&quot; occasionally. The key word is  occasional. <span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>Keep the focus on clarifying what you want.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Then look at what step will take you there.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class=MsoNormal style='line-height:200%'><span style='color:black'><span style='mso-spacerun:yes'> </span>We know valuable accomplishments ask us to grow.<span style='mso-spacerun:yes'>  </span>Secretly that it s why we like dreams the growth potential and the good they can do. 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